Children At Weddings

We really love capturing that relationship and love between the children and their families – even at the wedding.

Children can complete the family occasion

Children can complete the family occasion

One of the difficult questions when planning a wedding, especially when so many couples already have some children, do they come or do they stay? Sure, you want your children to have a part in your wedding celebrations, but you don’t necessarily want to have to deal with them at the end of the night, when they will be tired, possibly hyped-up on wedding cake and sweets, and more likely to misbehave than usual. While it would be nice to have children at the reception, there are some circumstances when it might be difficult to accommodate them

The question is more so when the children are school age and beyond as they will comprehend the importance of a wedding and probably know the bride and groom

Perhaps the biggest reason why most couples avoid inviting children to the reception is the length of the event. Most wedding events go on until after midnight, which means that children are likely to get tired. They could fall asleep under the tables, which are not unusual, but they could also start crying, throwing tantrums, or generally behaving badly. This can put a damper on the evening, particularly if people start to leave due to the children. If you plan to have an event which lasts until the small hours, then you should ask parents to leave children at home

A compromise could be for a babysitter to collect the children mid-way through the evening and taken back home for a sound night’s sleep and enabling the parents to kick their heels up a little and relax. Often once the cutting of the cake is done, the party begins and the children could be sent home

Another common problem is what to do with children who have been invited to the wedding, perhaps as ring-bearers or flower girls. You might have been happy to have them there, but are still not keen for them to be invited to the reception. It is not easy to talk to parents about bringing their children to the ceremony, but then sending them home. In fact, most couples decide that it would be unkind to ask children to perform the boring part (to them) and then leave them out of the reception

Couples may also want to avoid inviting children to the reception because they are having a set menu. In cases where meals are being provided at a lower rate because they are pre-determined, then a children’s menu might be an expensive addition. If you have some children who are teenagers, then these could be invited to eat the adult menu, but smaller kids might have to go home before that part of the reception is held


An alternative which might suit both the children and the parents is to set up a separate children’s room, where the youngsters can be dropped off and allowed to sleep, play or eat without interrupting the main event. A nanny may be hired to ensure that the children are well-looked after, and for those with a bigger budget, magicians, clowns and puppeteers might be invited in order to fill in the time. This is a happy compromise between having bored and tired children at a wedding, and having to leave them out completely

It is a delicate topic to discuss in some families and it all comes down to the happy couple setting boundaries before the big day and communicating with parents that will be attending as to what is their desire. For some cultures, this is not even a question and all children attend however, that is a personal matter and each couple has a different reason and should be respected

We really love capturing the love between families, especially children (although they say never work with children) and bring out that special bond on your special day – ask us about your Sydney Dream Wedding

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